What are we fighting for? A Peaceful Pathway for Separating Couples - To be released in January 2021
It is time for change. We need to stop and think about our behaviour and our actions following separation, stop blaming the system and everyone around us. We have choices. Lots of them. I am not just talking to couples, but practitioners. This needs to be a collective effort.
I have been a little busy over the last few months writing my book on this very topic, which will be released in January 2021.
“What are we fighting for” A Peaceful Pathway for Separating Couples is part of my mission to educate and guide clients as to how they can achieve peaceful settlements following separation.
I believe if we all work together, that we can make a real difference.
When a relationship ends, couple find themselves in a negative frame of mind, then more often than not, couples choose a pathway that involves litigation lawyers, inflammatory letters and court. They simply get caught up in the whirlwind and don’t question their behaviour, or no one teaches or shows them that there is a better way, so they just keep going. The entire relationship breaks down from there, they experience bad behavior, cruelty, anger and disappointment, so do their children. After that, it is very difficult to get back to a peaceful place.
I am working on solving separation issues early, seeing them as a human issue, not necessarily just a legal one. I have created methods and guides to keep clients calm, stop them from making any rash decisions, and helping them prepare, before moving on.
The booked is packed with advice, case studies, worksheets and a step by step guide that will take couples along a calm and peaceful pathway leaving them feeling grateful as to how they have treated each other and be very proud of the solution that they have reached together.
The peaceful pathway is quite simple:
· Stay calm: Realign yourself and your values. Map out your new pathway.
· Prepare: Do your research. Create your team. Complete action lists to consider needs and interests.
· Gather: Collect all the information, documents and any advice you need.
· Explore: Investigate options, fully understand and review your needs and the needs of your ex-spouse. Create and Test possible outcomes.
· Negotiate: Create the right atmosphere. Know what you need to discuss. Negotiate. Find ways through your obstacles.
· Resolve: Finalise your agreement. Test your solution. Write it up.
By following this guide and drawing on human strengths, morals and values, kindness, forgiveness and understanding, couples can truly follow a peaceful path after separation and achieve a positive outcome.
Over the next few weeks I will go through my entire strategy and explain each of the 6 stages in more detail, so if you would like to learn more you can follow my blog on https://www.flourishfamilylaw.com.au/blog.